My far-flying kite

The dangers of good thoughts.

Sep 02, 2024

Reading time: Approx 0h 4m 29s | Subject - Mindfulness

Many children are fond of flying kites in their childhood.

Children gradually learn to fly and put string in kites; they like to dual and cut each other's kites very much. Sometimes, someone else's kite is cut by pulling the thread, and sometimes, the kite is cut by loosening the thread.

All this in the game of flying kites is natural.

Sometimes, the children make the kite fly so far away that it becomes challenging to handle and fly properly.

Due to the air and distance of the kite, the tension on the thread becomes excruciatingly high and very difficult to control. At this point, either the string of the kite breaks or the kite gets stuck in a tree or house.

Despite this, once a good wind blows, a smile crosses children's faces that they can now fly their kite far away, and they do so but subsequently lose control of it as well.

Similarly, the mind also loses its control again and again due to the feeling of a little good thing or the apprehension of something wrong happening. It does not stay in the present situation and gets so immersed in the ocean of the future that it starts feeling pressure due to its depth, just like a submarine does.

We are talking about the tension on the thread of those who fly the kite of their thoughts too far. We are talking about the mental illness of those who think too much—those who overthink.

What is overthinking?

The generation of many ideas at the same time due to excessive observation of something or a situation is called excessive thinking on a subject. You can also say, overthinking.

This creates a huge tree of right and wrong thoughts in the mind.

This leads to the beginning of mental diseases.

In comparison to bad thoughts, good thoughts give a person more thrill and space to linger timelessly, destroying the person's power to think and understand. They build clouds of dreams based on those thoughts that are impossible to come true in any way on the ground.

Even if they do so, they may not come exactly as they thought. However, there is a high probability that not every dream will become a reality.

A person, just to give peace to his mind, builds a false mountain of good thoughts and then continues to mentally torture himself for fear of such thoughts not coming true.

A person never dreams on the basis of a mountain of wrong thoughts because wrong thoughts are the reflection of misery, and a person is scared of misery. Yet, even because of the probability of a bad outcome, they accept it as true and overthink.

For instance, if I say, today, you’ll get a bag full of $100M, you won’t accept it.

But, if I say that today you’re going to be late for your office, you’ll accept it as true and subsequently follow many bad thoughts.

With positive thoughts, if there’s proof, like from $100M, you got $1M, you’ll believe the next 99 and start to weave your dreams. On the other hand, if negative thoughts even show a sign of probability, you’ll start to believe it as realistic.

With positive thoughts, we build dreams after dreams.

With negative thoughts, we build bad situations one after another: “if this goes wrong, that wrong will happen.”

Sometimes, it proves positive to us because it helps us to prepare, but with positive thoughts, it doesn’t happen.

It never gives us any advantages other than daydreaming.

We choose to stay with the positive overthinking. We choose to walk with it no matter where it leads because it feels good.

Whereas, if we dive into the pool of negative overthinking, we feel anxiousness in ourselves. We want to not have it but still have it. If you choose to walk with it, you have to walk on the thorns, but with good thoughts’ overthinking the case is different.

For example, try to think how much negative thinking you can do.

After some time, after thinking a lot of negative thoughts, you let go of those bad thoughts without accepting them. You try to make yourself aware that it won’t happen. Or, you at least ensure to make yourself aware that you don’t want it.

Sometimes, when you’re mindful, you realise that they are not true; you take a sigh of relief and come out of overthinking.